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question… when is being frank is way to much to handle. is there a limit on what to say or not to say? is it a common decency that one person needs to somehow controls their brains threshold before uttering the unspeakeble words.. or thing that to them might not be offesive  yet hits like a dagger to others?

call me crazy but i sometimes get all work up when people says something which are mean and nasty… it somehow lingers in my brain.. as if the words or events still happens even though it was ages ago… grudge? vengeance? i don’t know.. all that i can say is that sometime a person.. whether close or not must know the limit what to say and when to say.. its a common courtesy.. like talking to a stranger.. you don’t suddenly put them down to shame when you just met the person 10 minutes ago… all I’m saying is that we humans are not hard as stone in terms of feelings(even stone turns to dust when under such terrible weather).. we do get crush in certain points.. and we hate that when it happens to us.. so why not have the same impulse of not doing it to others? I’m not saying that you need to put your words all sweet coated with sugar and cherry on the top.. just be modest in words and ways that you use it…for instance if you think that your friend is wearing that tiny skimpy and revealing clothes is not appropriate… there’s a choice of telling her how you feel or react to it…

a) kept quite and let others say mean things to her at her back and be part of it (tsk tsk… this is a no no… )…

b) be really nasty and mean to her .. i.e… gosh your watermellon are all over the place… (this is not the best ways to tell her how you feel and i totally disagrees this method)…

c)or by telling her nicely eventhough it might sounds a  bit hypocrite.. i.e… wow you look nice.. but i think you need to make it more nicer… i think you need to put a shawl so that it won’t look all blant… now you look radiant…

there you go… not to suck up sounding.. nor to mean… just modest… sooo for todays lesson… what we learnt is that.. yeah there is such thing as being tooooo frank… but sometimes… we need to understand that humans are just humans… if you pinch a person definately it will hurt… soo instead of pinching and causing such pain.. why not just give a lil tap .. besides.. everyone deserve to be respect and to be threated nicely…